A funeral wake is a small social gathering held before a funeral, usually held in the family member’s home. Historically, a traditional wake was held at the deceased’s home with the entire body present; however, many modern wakes are usually conducted at a funeral parlor or another convenient place. Although it is not required, most hosts provide a few special touches to the wake to make it more meaningful.
Since the funeral wake is generally held within the home, you want to make sure that you look appropriate for the occasion.
When attending these wakes, guests will often be at a loss for words as to what they should say. Asking yourself a few uncomfortable questions can be very enlightening and may give you some great ideas for what to say!
Typically, guests attend a funeral wake with other family members and friends. It is widespread for them to share stories and memories about their loved ones. Because it is so heartfelt, it is often held indoors. As a result, you can dress to fit in. Choose an outfit that compliments your skin tone. It is okay to wear a simple dress or dressy pants and jacket, but never wear anything too elaborate or loud.
If you know that your guest of honor enjoys vintage clothing, you may want to have them bring some of it for the funeral wake. Vintage clothing can be worn year after year as a tribute to the life of the person who has passed away. Another great idea is to wear an outfit that allows you to move around freely. Funerals are not known for providing many opportunities to move around! If you have a few chairs or a table in the room, you can quickly move to a place where you will be comfortable.
The purpose of the funeral wake is to share time with family members and close friends who have lost a loved one. Although everyone will have different opinions, you do not have to express every thought that crosses your mind. Keep your comments and feelings inside of your heart, for this is the time to be thankful that your loved ones are no longer living.
If you are having a themed funeral wake, it is good to coordinate it with the rest of your party. The colors, theme, and atmosphere should flow throughout the entire gathering. If your guests wear suits or ties, it is good to ask each guest to wear a uniform similar to the other guests. This can make things much more accessible and make them feel more coordinated.
A funeral wake can be an excellent chance for close family members and friends to express their feelings at the wake. Although most people grieve the death of a loved one, everyone also needs a few days to gather and let the grief go away. Make sure that you schedule awake sometime during the day to grieve at your own pace and ensure that all of your visitors can join you.